how long in advance of an RFS date I should expect cabinets to be installed?
weeks to months. Power supply delays have been cited recently and reading here you'll see plenty of mention of cabinets in place (and in some cases powered up) but not RFS.
MaxDSL - goes as fast as it can and doesn't read the line checker first.
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