SO, if residential, is the only solution to use BT equipment then?
Unfortunately correct.
It's why a number of people have had FTTP installed alongside their existing connection, then migrated their landline number to a VOIP provider (like Sipgate etc.).
Are they not meant ot publish the standards because of competition rules etc?
At the moment, no. I'm also sure they can argue it on the basis of maintaining 'security' etc.
Also, given the sheer number of people who just happily use the provider's kit I suspect most people will just accept it (unfortunately).
TalkTalk Future Fibre - 500Mbps / 75Mbps