I got my money back because I paid by PayPal and the vendor didn't respond to the PayPal complaints procedure. If I had paid by any other method I might have been left in the lurch. There are a LOT of shady characters on e-bay - it is too easy to take money and run. I wouldn't trust any private seller who seems to be running a business with the volumes sold.
I agree that the vendor should ask. In practice I don't think it counts for much with private sellers on e-bay.
edited for typo.
Edited by deleted (Tue 03-Apr-07 19:35:27)