In reply to a post by professor973:

Thank you for your advise, but you obviously did not spot the "DO NOT email" if I wish to avoid a ban.

As ferret said, I didn't miss it at all

I think that is also one of the reasons people fall out. They mistake what someone has written for something else - it is difficult on forums like this as none of us are as careful in writing as we would be if doing an official letter - so we make spelling and grammar mistakes or we don't consider all the different ways something may be read. A lot of forum arguments would not happen if people were more forgiving of the way things are written and give the benefit of the doubt.

Whether it is the person writing it wasn't careful or the person reading it misread it - either way it is better to assume people didn't intend offence then to take offence and then find out it was a mistake.

And just to be clear I am not targeting you with that but making an observation.

Totally agree Ian, we can all mis-read or misunderstand and go off half-cocked. None of us are perfect or knows everything, but can all bring something to the forum. But that aside, there are some that deliberately wind some of us up, with behaviour that goes unchecked too long, which leads to a spat. I also find that the condescending attitude of some is what winds some up, but that is the nature of fora. Many are convinced they are the one correct.