Right guys..... I can now tell you what happened. Second engineer arrived 17.30 today - well yesterday actually. He has just left, at 00.10 this morning! He tells me the following:
1) As Xray highlighted, there should not have been two masters, with two capacitors, on the line. Nor should one extension have been fed back to the pole and then to the other one. He has no idea why the original second line wasn't taken from the 'spare line' wiring in the original cable, why the first engineer put on two new master sockets, or why he didn't standardise the wiring.
But none of that was the main problem!
2) He found a very high level of REIN (in simple terms for anyone who like me doesn't know these things, electrical intereference), which wasn't from our house. This was tracked down to a neighbours Wii.. in the middle of their dinner... whoops...
But that wasn't the main problem either!
3) The problem was the cable to our house. At the pole outside, sync speed was 5.0mb/s. 20 feet away, it was 0.5mb/s. But - all his initial tests showed there was nothing wrong with line or cable - which is why he spent 3 hours, in the dark and pouring rain, climbing 6 different poles to find where the signal was being lost! In the end he wired our line up to the spare wires in the cable - and hey presto...
The guy was a star. Oh and he could, and did, reset the NM to 6db, which - pretty close - is what it now is.
We've been asked to monitor this for a bit, as it may be necessary to replace the cable entirely.... and a neighbour has also had problems, so there may be something else in the wiring at that pole...but compared to 0.1mb/s.... this is internet heaven!
So... if you're reading this because you've googled some of the issues and are getting nowhere - my advice is very much to talk to the guys on here; they may not be able to fix it for you, but without the help of other posters, especially Xray, I would not have been able to understand enough of the problem to persevere and get this fixed - many thanks guys.
As for Orange - well 5/10. Because while their technical service has got better, apparently they had access to the same stats as the BT engineeer and should have been able to tell weeks ago that there was clearly a mega problem on our line and ordered a Broadband Health Check then, not waited 6 weeks.
Cheers guys!
Edited by deleted (Tue 11-Sep-12 00:39:59)