the other thing is the bebox wireless is rubish and the thing restarts at least once a day sometimes more so what id like to do is use the bebox in bridge mode and add an ap to handle all the traffic
May be overkill for you but I use clearos which amongst other things allows you to guarantee bandwidth to each device on the network and set priorities for who should get any remaining bandwidth.
Downside is you need a spare PC to run it on as it installs it's own linux based operating system. It then acts as a gateway for your internet traffic.
It's also rock solid as a router and free for home use.
There are paid for options under the heading of ClearSDN services but you don't have to take these.
You would then need to buy a wireless access point as well of course.
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Gary