Hi there, sorry to be late to the thread.
The data extension kit that was fitted by the installing engineer is incorrect. They have used internal telephone extension cable, not the required 2 pair hi-twist stuff required. If this data extension kit is running any significant distance, this WILL be having a detrimental affect on your VDSL signal.
Is it stapled or cleated ? Staples may well have pinched the pair inside also, hence it *should* be done in the other type of cable and MUST be cleated.
I haven't read the rest of the thread yet .... If you have hacked the modem, so you can see stats, try again with a 'normal 'ADSL filter in the test socket, all else disconnected, what stats now ?
When the engineer comes, hover over him like a fly round ****. Make sure you are shown that the pair quality test passes with flying colours. Ask to watch the tester on a manual VDSL test, there should be NO errors, CRC's/FEC's showing. Ask that they have the sync recalculated by the FTTC SMC, noting the sync rate, and SNR, both before and after the recalc.
Point out that the data extension kit is just plain wrong, THIS MUST BE CHANGED, free of charge. It may just be this that is screwing things up, but worth having them check the whole installation, if the first engineer did one thing wrong, then there may be other howlers.
Good luck. Keep us posted.