Nothing was mentioned about being "impolite" in its conventional sense about general behaviour - just that please and thank you ought to be the norm amongst adults - especially when a person is asking for something. As I said to micksharpe, we clearly inhabit different worlds - and your seems to be one where your parents didn't instil in you the value of please and thank you. Your problem, not mine, but if that's how you behave, then I feel a little sad for you and yours. Can't be bothered to reply again, because we clearly have different social values: I prefer mine!

By all means instruct your own children. I wish you well.

Don't EVER patronise me by assuming you know anything about me, my upbringing, my parents or my values. You have a lot to say but with little substance. Thankfully I don't live anywhere near your small minded world.

Edited by deleted (Fri 27-Mar-15 21:23:53)

Would you be posting the same way to lelgirl if she had posted what lelboy said?

A nice ambush, Bob.

Meant in a semi-serious, semi-joking way . And lelboy was coming in for a little bit of too heavy flaming really. The OP hadn't taken offence, quite the opposite so far as I could see.

Thank you Mick - I did, and they, since they were able to speak, said please and thank you ("ta" initially): am I the odd one out, or is that not what most parents/grandparents did?
Cheers, Les.

Ah Roger, I seem to have ruffled your feathers - that wasn't my original intent, but if the cap fits, then wear it.
I DO know a little about your "values": you don't think it necessary to say please and thank you. That's not presumption, that's fact. Why you should take umbrage at me giving a little prod to someone, about online niceties, is beyond me - but the fact that I have not been inundated with comments from Andrew/Bob or any number of other long-term members or staff would seem to say that they tacitly might agree with me! As I say, this site revolves in a great part about us being friendly and accommodating to others, and the fact that I gently pointed this out to someone - and the bizarre response from you - seems to hint, perhaps, that a little self scrutiny is in order, and not that you start berating me. If you feel inclined to look through my 300 odd posts, you'll not see ANY element of bad manners: the case rests.

Edited by lelboy (Sat 28-Mar-15 11:34:38)

General Reply:

May be some of the posters here are falling foul of the general forum Syndrome of misinterpretation.

It is all too easy to jump to a conclusion on a forum and equally all too easy to, as a poster say something or not say something which is misinterpreted. I know this has happened here as the background of one poster has been questioned, when (nearly) all the postings in the past have inclined me to know more about him, and he makes lots.

I like to think I always say thank you for questions answered here, but if I omit it, it is not intentional in someone who I think automatically says it when something is handed to me.

Actually that automatic reaction is interesting in itself. It was something I was brought up to do and sometimes it is not necessarily meant. I was unluckily enough to go to a boarding school where corporal punishment happened. The victim had to say thank you afterwards.

"amongst adults"

That might be the issue. Children should be taught 'manners' not just adults.